Alone Again... Will This Be My Life?

Do you ever find yourself thinking, “Will I ever find my person?”

Do you say things like, “I don’t trust online dating,” or “There’s no one in this town for me”?

If so, you’re not alone. It can feel frustrating and exhausting to try what feels like every possible way to meet someone, only to end up right where you started. You may even be wondering if giving up on love and learning to accept being alone is the best, safest option.

But deep down, you don’t want to be alone. You are just tired of being disappointed, and maybe starting to believe you’re destined to be on your own forever.

Before you resign yourself to that story, let me ask:

Do you see yourself as someone who’s not good enough, not attractive, or not lovable?

Because if that quiet voice inside is saying “yes,” then it might be time to challenge those beliefs gently.

Love Starts with How You See Yourself

Real connection begins with self-worth. It starts by knowing your values, embracing your strengths, understanding your character, and truly believing you are worthy of love. We often focus so much on what we want in a partner that we forget to ask:

How do I want to show up in a relationship?

What do I bring to the table?

Am I the kind of person I would want to be with?

This isn’t about perfection; it's about alignment, authenticity, and self-respect.

Why Being Single Might Be “Working” More Than You Think

Here’s a hard but important question:

“How is being single actually working for me right now?”

Sometimes, being single protects us from rejection, from compromise, and from vulnerability. It might feel safer to stay solo than to risk disappointment again. But recognizing this can be the first step toward healing and reopening your heart to possibility.

According to psychologist Geoff MacDonald from the University of Toronto, research shows

that people around the world are staying single longer, and more people are choosing to remain

single altogether. It’s a valid choice, but it should be your choice, not something you’ve settled

for out of fear or self-doubt.

Becoming the Right Person, Not Just Finding One

In my work, I’ve supported many people on their journey to love, not just in finding a partner, but in discovering and appreciating who they are. When you begin to believe in your own worth and see yourself clearly, you radiate something deeply attractive: confidence, honesty, and emotional availability.

Let’s be honest: self-worth and self-love can sound like clichés. But ask yourself, would you want to be with someone who doesn’t see their own value? Neither would the person who might be “the one” for you.

You Deserve Love! Starting With Yourself

Let’s start working on how great you really are, looking at yourself with honesty, humility, and a whole lot of self-compassion. When you become your own best friend, you may find that you’re more ready for a healthy, lasting relationship than ever before.

You are not alone again... and this does not have to be your life if you do not want it to. If you want to explore the topic of love and yourself, connect with me at shelley@karrelcounselling.com. I look forward to hearing from you.